Can Igor do it?

I was in the middle of an argument with Nicola. I had fucked something up pretty badly and tempers were running high. I was feeling exceptionally guilty, because I knew my mistake had been costly. I was also feeling victimised and picked on. And very defensive.

Finally, I rounded on her and told her that in future, she needed to ask herself a question before trusting me with any responsibility. I told her she should say “can Igor do it?” If she decided that it was beyond Igor’s capabilities, then it was probably beyond mine, too.

Yeah. I know. But it wasn’t the first fight we’d had and I was starting to have some real problems coping with the conflicts. So… that was my response. It didn’t exactly reduce the tension.